So you whining for yourself? Or over stories you heard from other people?
You cherry picked the stories too?
Then you're not gonna like mine.
My Sons dad tried to take it all, even my sons bed, and I gave him 2k to get lost. Never paid a dime of the $70 wk he was suposed to pay.
I got the house [and payment], albeit empty. Happily replaced the furishings his dad took, even my sons bed, worked 2 jobs to pay for us, and ya know what?
I wasn't on welfare.
I was a very small part of my life.
The people in your stories got screwed over because they chose wrong.
I chose wrong.
I got over it.
Way over it.

 

You're one of the good ones then. But how do differentiate the good ones from the bad?

 

Yeah, ive heard some horror stories too. Your first example is
is pretty bad. Not sure how that happened considering judges
dont take lightly to cheating.

My dad was in the same boat. Paid a ton in child support, but
yet couldnt figure out why me and my brother were always in
grubby mismatched clothes. My mom and step dad Always
had cases of pop, beer, weed, junk food etc. Kind of a messed
up deal.

 

just wanted to add I am not a woman hater, just that thoughs 3 are only the tip of the amount of guys this has happened to. Some woman think only of themselves but can hide it well. A perfect example of this is one of my sister now ex friends (for these morally corrupt reasons) bankrupted her marriage so got divorced since there was no more money to spend. Now she entices married business men (yeah it their fault to) into cheating and blackmail them. The one guy I know of it's already past the $400,000 mark and she has 12 men that we know of that she's doing this with.

 

I've seen a large number of people I know go through the exact same thing and get royally screwed over. The courts really need to find some balance. It's not right that the man should lose everything if the woman pushes for it. Luckily, some women are decent and don't try to screw the guy over. But greed is a strong instinct, whether male or female. Look how it sometimes splits up a family when they start fighting over deceased parents possessions.

 

Your rant sucks. Now, I do grant that you live in CA... in CA things tend to work OPPOSITE of common-sense. CA and NY that is. But in vast majority of marriages the man cheats and leaves the wife/family to fend for themselves. Hence why not paying Child Support can now send you to prison.

 

Your rant sucks. Now, I do grant that you live in CA... in CA things tend to work OPPOSITE of common-sense. CA and NY that is. But in vast majority of marriages the man cheats and leaves the wife/family to fend for themselves. Hence why not paying Child Support can now send you to prison.

Its funny that you say that because its been shown that women have a tendency to cheat more.

 

Be careful out there, forget about your ego, and ^^ marry up ^^

(some humor, just in case it's not obvious enough)

http://www.datehookup.com/Thread-1092521.htm

 

Wow someone should write a song about that.

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6vwNcNOTVzY&desktop_uri=/watch?v=6vwNcNOTVzY

 

It's not just the money. My sister in law was a drug addict who slept around on my brother. At the divorce hearing her own mother testified against her. The judge still granted custody of the kids to her. 6 months later the kids had been abandoned at her sisters house for two months, and it still took three court dates, six weeks and another testimony from her mom and two sisters saying that she was an unfit mom before he got custody.

 

Before I retired I was a paralegal. Hate to tell you this, hon, but people suck. Not women ... not men ... but PEOPLE ...

And no people suck more than family ...

 

The problem is when the enforcement side of govt. is on the side of the 'privileged' class.

It also appears that 70-90% of divorces are instigated by women for 'dissatisfaction'.

I do agree however, that both genders are equally to blame.

 

I think it would be safer to say that "divorce sucks." I really think it's passed time that we reevaluate our marriage ideal.

 

I think it would be safer to say that "divorce sucks." I really think that it's passed time that we should reevaluate our marriage ideal.

I totally agree. Govt., through the force of violence, has been a complete catastrophe for everyone and especially the children who have the burden of paying for this chit. Emotionally and financially.

 

Maybe we should get rid of marriage altogether, I mean now that the gays have just won the right to be married. Marriage is antiquainted, isn't it? It's based on some really old-fashioned ideals. People should just shack up.

 

I agree, I think. Getting govt. out of our personal lives at all levels is definitely a first step.

 

I think it has more to do with how society views things. Society almost blames a woman for being a good wife, mother, and partner now a day. Society makes things like going to bars and parties and other things ok. Basically whatever is wrong is right now.

I am almost thirty years old. When I was 17 I started dating this girl. We hit it off. We stayed together thru college. I put her thru college twice. Bought her a brand new car. Provided a rental house for her parents for only $300 a month, the house normally rented for 1200. Purchased new cloths, jewelry, and stuff like that. She never had a job.

So about three years ago, I was going thru a change. Wanted to do something better with my life. Wanted to start my own business. Well I came home one day and every single thing in my house, except my guns and etc, was moved out. Everything. Even my gold, silver, and money in the safe. Didn't even have a bed. No forewarning. No explanation. Wouldn't pick up the phone. Same thing with her parents. Well, four days went by and I finally talked to her. She didn't want to be together any more. I was like, that's ok, but this isn't how you go about it. She didnt care. She said she was owed these things. It was a nightmare. Took me a good 2 years to get over it.

It left a sour taste in my mouth. I mean, I trusted this woman with everything and then just one day, bam. Totally 180. Ill be turning 30 this year, and I'm finally at the point where I would like to start dating again. But it's almost like I'm gun shy because I don't want to be used again.

 

You didn't take her to court? That sounds a lot like theft to me...

 

Here in PA filing for a PFA (protection from abuse) order seems to be a standard procedure during just about any divorce where the woman files and has a real lawyer. Cannot tell you how many guys I know who lost their right to keep firearms just because it meant leverage in the divorce proceedings.

Same thing in Colorado. when I shot indoor archery just about every one of the guys who frequented the range was there because they were no longer allowed to own firearms: a consequence of their wives divorcing them and filing PFAs.

Not saying that PFAs are not justified sometimes, but yes, the divorce process in this country is WAY ONE SIDED!

 

The truth is that men and women cheat equally.

Whether you are the one who is married or not it is still adultery.


.

 

I can find a bad man story for every bad woman one you come up with. Like my sister's ex who cheated on her, left her, and never paid one dime of child support. Like my best friend's husband, who intercepted "pre approved" credit card offers being sent to her, signed up for a bunch of them, maxed them, then left her with thousands of dollars of debt in her name. Orders of protection? My daughter got one against her ex, after he rammed her car with his on the highway and then later broke into the house and kidnapped the baby.

As has been said, people suck. It's not gender specific.

 

Never get Divorced or Married in WA State it is not worth it.

 

For every bad woman story, there's a bad man story somewhere...

My ex cheated, then walked out. Self employed & his business miraculously dropped from +8K per month net profit to -3K per month loss. His inventory went from a steady 30K to 15K according to the reports he turned in. Proven in court without doubt!

He got the house, all the furniture, the business & all the assets & inventory, 3 trailers, all the appliances, all the bank accounts

I got the kids beds & 1 of their dressers & my dishes & cookware (less the kitchen aid mixer he gave me as a birthday present), clothes & 3 vehicles (out of 5 we owned) & the debt on 1 vehicle and $40K & $200/mo alimony for 3 yrs.

Out of a $217 K total estate.

It was such an unfair settlement my atty said I could easily win on appeal but it would take another $5k and another year. I walked away...........

Now if he would just leave me the hell alone, I would be happy.

 

I met a women up in alaska that was divorced. Each of her children were from the next guy in line while she was still married to the future last guy. She also collected child support from all of them. it of course was back when they could only type blood types. Poor kids never new their real fathers.

 

My son is going through a nasty divorce now. she claimed he was stalking her, we proved he wasn't but because of the RO he wasn't to be around guns. Well guess what, I had 17 weapons in my home. The swat team busted in took all my guns and now my son is facing 14 years in prison. the cops found out who did all of this but the ex didn't want to press charges because it was her best friend but she pressed charges against my son. Now that sucks.

We are still waiting for the court dates 2 years later.
He is also not allowed to see his three sons unless he pays 50 bucks and hour once a week.

 

They took your guns? How in the hell did that happen? Is that even legal?

 

It's well known that justice and decency regarding divorce in the legal system is not commensurate for men and women. I can't believe people are even disputing this.

The bigger issue at hand, of course, are the horrid rates of marrying early, marrying wrong, and of divorce itself.

 

They're disputing it because of our level of indoctrination. We've been trained this our entire lives. The purpose of this propaganda is division. A divided society is much easier to control because our focus is on the 'illusion' of oppression by our fellow citizens, rather than where the true oppression is coming from.

 

I agree. I've never cheated, and actually don't even completely understand the mindset. Nor have my friends.

 

Some Ex wives can be mean, spitefull, cruel creatures.


Be happy the guys here didn't get divorced in Japan....

 

He wasn't living in my house when this happened. He was living in the back in a travel trailer, his address is the same as mine but we call his addy #1.

They found an old mossberg shotgun of my deceased brother in his trailer. There was no stock, trigger or any way to make it fire. That is the excuse they are using to try and put him in prison. When my brother passed away I put all of his belongings in the trailer. Then when my son had to move back home I had him live out there and had forgotten about the old mossberg.

I wish I had the money to sue this county. I have no way of protecting myself or my disabled husband now. We haven't even been able to replace our front door they busted in. I have it covered up with cardboard boxes.
I believe they are taking so long because they know they are wrong and are waiting for the statue of limitations to run out.

 

Madness. I could go on and on how this is wrong but ultimately it won't change a thing.

The only way to change stuff is for us ALL to make the change. But it seems like We The People no longer have the ability to stand up for what is right.

I hope you get your issues taken care of. You have a hell of a civil case going.

 

Well when I got divorced, it was a clean break. I got the kids, the money, all of the household stuff, and no alimony. she went back home to her mom. I will say the divorce took place in Japan. Will I get married again??? probably not.

 

If your ex is Japanese you are very lucky you got your kids!

Kids are property in Japan, its all about who has physical custody. They can disappear and there is nothing a gaijin can do about it. Police won't help, and the court don't care in Japan.
I last heard from my oldest 6 years ago.

 

Two personal stories. My father left my mother with 3 infants and one on the way. To pay off his extravagant lifestyle she had to sell everything. He was orderd to pay $50 a month (this was in 1955, but still) and quite often was late with that.
My ex got laid off about two months before she filed. She always made more than I by about 40%. Her initial negotiation point was that she deserved 78% of marital assets due to her larger financial contribution during our marriage AND wanted alimony to boot.
Point is that there are aholes in both sexes.