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This is a rant and if it needs to get deleted or moved I understand.
Coming from a small town I tend to know everyone one way or another. I know a ex-wife ex-husband and their two kids. The ex husband I'll call H the ex wife J. I work with J and while I'm pleasant with her I have never really liked her. She is one of those people who is nice to your face but don't tell her too much because she'll be gossiping and making crap up about you behind your back. She's always been a party girl. While H is a more stay at home guy, rather be with his kids, goes out a couple times a year. When they got a divorce it was because she had been sleeping around. In fact she just left H and the kids for almost 2 months and had nothing to do with them. They now have joint custody because the mother can be an ax murderer and the courts are still going to give her custody of some sort. I don't have much to do with this because face it, they're not related and I didn't marry the b***h. I know the children through my son. One boy in a couple years old that Hawk and one in a year younger.
So much for the background. Today and tomorrow are warm days so I decided to take some of the town kids for a sleigh ride. My son called up his friends and they called theirs and like I said it's a small town so word got around. This morning I got a call from J asking if her boys could go on a sleigh ride. I said yes. The she asked me if I could call H and tell him it was a church function. I said no because it wasn't a church function. We don't even go to the same church. She said it was okay that the church would pay me and then it would a church function. I said no, if her kids wanted to go on a sleigh ride fine but I wasn't going to lie about it to her ex.
So then about a half hour later her pastor calls me up and ask if I wouldn't mind saying that my sleigh rides were a church function and the church would pay me for doing it. I was getting a bit miffed now as this was going to be a fun day for some kids and these two were trying to turn it into something else. I said no, I had no problem taking any of the kids from their church on a ride with their parent's permission but it was just for fun, not a church function.
So then the pastor, a woman mind you, says to me, "Oh but it wouldn't hurt to call it a church function, would it? See, J wants her kids to know that her church is better than H's church so they'd rather go to church with her instead of her ex."
So the pastor wanted me to lie. What kind of crazy religion is this? I'm not Methodist (what this church is) but from my reading of the Bible lying is kind of frowned on.
I said no and that I was not going to get in the middle of trying to hurt a good man. If the pastor thinks that lying for her flock is a good thing, then fine but I am going to honor my soul just a tiny bit more than that.
The pastor got angry, which made two of us, and told me that I don't know how hard it isfor J's kids. I answered it must be hard if their mother lies to them all the time. I asked her if she had happened to read her Bible before she chose her job. We were both hot and she ended up calling me "Not nice." To which I replied, "Lady, if you think this isn't nice you should see me when I get really ticked off." Which I was but I wanted to sound like a bad a$$.
I called a friend. I was so angry and,of course, dumped on her. She told me that this was not the first story like this she had heard about that pastor. She said that J is one of a group of women who go with the pastor partying in the big city once a month and that these women are not of good morals, if you understand what I am saying. She says that the pastor is not above manipulating the children in her divorced friends and that she actually encourages women to get divorced if they want to goout partying and their husbands want to stay home.
Now, I will claim ignorance when it comes to religion. I have mine and it is a very important part of my life. Still I always figured that most religions were basically good. I don't know if what my friend was saying is true but I know what I went through today so I can see it as being true. So am I just blissfully ignorant when it comes to religion. Are their religions out there where pastors can party and lie and still stay pastors? What does a person do if they are confronted this way? I have always tried to offer respect to leaders of all religions even those I am not a part of. Now I am going to look at religious leaders in a new light. I also am going over to H's house and offer to give his kids a sleigh ride when they are not with their mother. I want them to know that they have a good dad.
Rant over. I have to go calm down. This is just really bugging me. Thanks for letting me rant and feel free to get rid of this if it is not appropriate.
blt
Coming from a small town I tend to know everyone one way or another. I know a ex-wife ex-husband and their two kids. The ex husband I'll call H the ex wife J. I work with J and while I'm pleasant with her I have never really liked her. She is one of those people who is nice to your face but don't tell her too much because she'll be gossiping and making crap up about you behind your back. She's always been a party girl. While H is a more stay at home guy, rather be with his kids, goes out a couple times a year. When they got a divorce it was because she had been sleeping around. In fact she just left H and the kids for almost 2 months and had nothing to do with them. They now have joint custody because the mother can be an ax murderer and the courts are still going to give her custody of some sort. I don't have much to do with this because face it, they're not related and I didn't marry the b***h. I know the children through my son. One boy in a couple years old that Hawk and one in a year younger.
So much for the background. Today and tomorrow are warm days so I decided to take some of the town kids for a sleigh ride. My son called up his friends and they called theirs and like I said it's a small town so word got around. This morning I got a call from J asking if her boys could go on a sleigh ride. I said yes. The she asked me if I could call H and tell him it was a church function. I said no because it wasn't a church function. We don't even go to the same church. She said it was okay that the church would pay me and then it would a church function. I said no, if her kids wanted to go on a sleigh ride fine but I wasn't going to lie about it to her ex.
So then about a half hour later her pastor calls me up and ask if I wouldn't mind saying that my sleigh rides were a church function and the church would pay me for doing it. I was getting a bit miffed now as this was going to be a fun day for some kids and these two were trying to turn it into something else. I said no, I had no problem taking any of the kids from their church on a ride with their parent's permission but it was just for fun, not a church function.
So then the pastor, a woman mind you, says to me, "Oh but it wouldn't hurt to call it a church function, would it? See, J wants her kids to know that her church is better than H's church so they'd rather go to church with her instead of her ex."
So the pastor wanted me to lie. What kind of crazy religion is this? I'm not Methodist (what this church is) but from my reading of the Bible lying is kind of frowned on.
I said no and that I was not going to get in the middle of trying to hurt a good man. If the pastor thinks that lying for her flock is a good thing, then fine but I am going to honor my soul just a tiny bit more than that.
The pastor got angry, which made two of us, and told me that I don't know how hard it isfor J's kids. I answered it must be hard if their mother lies to them all the time. I asked her if she had happened to read her Bible before she chose her job. We were both hot and she ended up calling me "Not nice." To which I replied, "Lady, if you think this isn't nice you should see me when I get really ticked off." Which I was but I wanted to sound like a bad a$$.
I called a friend. I was so angry and,of course, dumped on her. She told me that this was not the first story like this she had heard about that pastor. She said that J is one of a group of women who go with the pastor partying in the big city once a month and that these women are not of good morals, if you understand what I am saying. She says that the pastor is not above manipulating the children in her divorced friends and that she actually encourages women to get divorced if they want to goout partying and their husbands want to stay home.
Now, I will claim ignorance when it comes to religion. I have mine and it is a very important part of my life. Still I always figured that most religions were basically good. I don't know if what my friend was saying is true but I know what I went through today so I can see it as being true. So am I just blissfully ignorant when it comes to religion. Are their religions out there where pastors can party and lie and still stay pastors? What does a person do if they are confronted this way? I have always tried to offer respect to leaders of all religions even those I am not a part of. Now I am going to look at religious leaders in a new light. I also am going over to H's house and offer to give his kids a sleigh ride when they are not with their mother. I want them to know that they have a good dad.
Rant over. I have to go calm down. This is just really bugging me. Thanks for letting me rant and feel free to get rid of this if it is not appropriate.
blt
: I've calmed down now and for the marriage I am staying out of that. It's none of my business unless I hear of abuse to the kids, which I haven't.
