I too would think it strange.:xeye:

 

Yep strange. Id keep my kid away from him.

 

Some folks have a serious phobia about lice.

 

Yep, weird....:xeye:

 

It comes down to the parent, I guess.

It was a little odd for your husband to take it upon himself to wash her coat, but no stranger than many of the things I encountered when I was a kid.

On my very first sleepover ever in the first grade, I got screamed at by my friend's dad for accidentally pouring orange juice in my cereal. Seriously, he yelled at me at top volume like I had just killed an innocent.

In my house, my mom put milk in a glass on the table by the my cereal bowl and I used that milk in my cereal. In their house, they put oj in a cup on the table. Since I could not see into the cup, I just assumed it was milk.

I still have a vivid memory of that to this day.

I guess what I am trying to say is that compared to experiences like the one I just shared, I doubt anyone will remember your hubby washing a coat, OP.

 

I don't think it's strange. My daughter has a huge slumber party once a year. Several of the kids have coats/bags that stink of cigarette smoke. I really REALLY want to wash everything but I don't need to tick their parents off. We all know each other here. I have to really clean our house and bedding when they leave to get the smell out.

 

I'm with you, but I will wash peoples stuff for them and think you should do the same. I see it just like wiping a kid's nose. If its dirty, and I have the time, I take care of it. Its your home and you choose when something is too gross and needs washing.

I have washed very smokey jackets and hats. No big deal, we wash our own after camping, its just a nice thing to do. The wife washes guest's during slumber parties, so that the parents don't have to dig through a sack of dirty cloths the next day. Once again, being nice. We have treated a guest for lice when her and our daughter came home with it. We treated both girls, picked nits, washed cloths, and picked nits. When the girl's great grandmother came to get her, she was pleased that people still act like "they used to".

Yes, washing a coat for an old infestation is uneeded, but the meaning was well placed. If you are worried about what to say, tell them it had a spot. I'm sure it would be true.

Oh, and for you guys that can't do the laundry. Man up! Who do you think does it in the military? Who does it when you go backwoods camping(you do wash don't you)? Even in prison, who do you think is doing the laundry?

 

I think it's weird that a man would volunteer to wash anything except his hunting gear without being told to do so by his better half.

 

Yeah..that's what i meant to say....a woman does it, it's ok, a guy, well, weird...like going thru dirty laundry...

 

Nope, Not strange. Every one of us has a pet peeve or thingy and, obsessive/compulsive is in us all to diff degrees.. The Human brain is a funny animal . The cleaning compulsion is a funny bugger.

 

I think it's a little weird. If that happned with my kids, I would be asking them a lot of questions about what went on in that house. I think I'd be a little insulted too...like they didn't think that I kept my kids' stuff clean enough.

 

Do you think it would have been better for him to tell the little girl to take her dirty coat and get the hell out of his house? I think with the girls history of head lice, he probably did everyone a favor - once established, they can be a nightmare to get rid of. I think there are far too many thin-skinned people.

 

I'm very icked out by lice and I would have done the same thing. I'm sure the parents wouldn't notice unless you use a heavily perfumed laundry detergent.

 

Hmm... weird because my husband has never even seen the new washer in the basement, and its a year old.

If a comment gets made, I'd just pass it off and say the coat was in the pile with the other kids and he didn't notice.

 

Yeah. That was not appropriate.

 

The problem I see with the coat washing is that it would NOT have done anything to stop the spread of head lice. When my daughter was in grade school (in the SF Bay area) Head lice were a constant problem. When kids are younger, they have a lot of close contact - rolling around while playing, sharing brushes, hair ornaments (girls mostly...lol). Coats (and all personal apparel) are part of the problem but only PART. She went home with a clean coat, but if she had lice, she still shared them with the other kids. But I have to say, I don't blame him (misguided as his efforts were). There were times I considered shaving my daughter's head as well as her friends. OK, I'm really kidding. The only way to get rid of head lice is to treat the hair/scalp of EVERYONE in the house, wash all the bedding and clothing, and treat all surfaces like sofas, chairs, car seats, etc. And it all has to be done on the same day. The best cure is prevention and that's really, really hard with kids.

 

Wow try being a little fair just because a kid got lice from another child doesn't make that child dirty. Anyone can get headlice it's when you have it and don't get rid of it that it becomes a problem. How many parents do you know that inspect their kids daily for headlice? One kid at school gets it and soon the whole class gets it if the child has a sibling isn't long before the whole school has it.

If the parents ask about the coat I'd just say something got spilled on it while it was at your house.

 

If you have daughters you could always tell her parents that he must have thought it was one of your girls jacket. I dont think its weird, we have kids spending the night all the time and clothes get mixed up/left behind etc. We wash them and send them home with the kids next time theyre over. Their parents do the same when our kids stay over there.

 

Nowadays with bedbugs on the rise, I see no problem being concerned about who and what is brought into your house. I would have accidentally spilled something on it first so I could have told the mother/father why I needed to wash it.

 

Funny thing about head lice...they actually prefer CLEAN hair! When we were in Texas, my kidswould regularly end up bringing home notices that they had been EXPOSED to head lice (and occasionally brought the lice home, as well). Sounds weird, but the BEST way I found to get rid of the lice and their eggs was to wash their hair with DOG SHAMPOO! Specifically, Adams Flea and Tick shampoo. Not only did it get rid of the lice better than Ridd (or any of the other similar products) but it also left their hair really soft and shiny (due to the "coat conditioners" in the shampoo) AND it was less irritating to their skin. (Ridd always made them break out with rashes.) I always had the shampoo on hand because of my dogs, and the first time didn't have the money for the Ridd, (there was too much month at the end of the money, and with 4 kids, that amounted to a significant amount) so used the dog shampoo since I didn't have anything else. ONE shampooing with the Adams shampoo got rid of them, whereas the Ridd usually required several applications.

 

It's sad to say, but I doubt I would even notice if my kid came home with a freshly washed coat. If I happened to notice or if my child pointed it out to me I would think something probably got spilled on it. I happen to think it was nice in a way that he would help you try to prevent a lice outbreak, however useless it may have been. Of coarse, if my child had lice previously, I would probably be paranoid that they might have washed the coat for that reason. Did he happen to pick through her hair too? That could offend someone. I check kids that visit sometimes. You never know.

 

If it is ever mentioned you just say, "yeah I found it in the wash that my husband did. He never checks what he's putting in the washer. I'm just glad it wasn't the cat again.":

All jokes aside...My kids got lice a few years ago. It seems that a girl in my daughter's class was being called to the office every couple of weeks and sent home with them!

Picked my daughter's head of long hair for SIX hours. Son had a couple, *gulp* and I must confess me too.

Vacuumed daily (including couches) for over a week, washed all bedding every day, stuffed animals and such were put in the dryer everyday, and learned more about lice than I ever wanted to know. I worried that my cat would get them and reinfest us. (They can't) I used poisons first (bad I know) and then home remedies (worked fine).

I'd rather look a little weird to a parent than go through that again.

I also would have watched the kid closely and after one deep scratching I would have found some pressing errand that needed our immediate attention.

 

I think it was kind of sweet.

Might bring the rest of my daughter's laundry over....

 

While I can see why some would think it's weird, honestly the way I see it is he was looking out for your kids, even if it wasn't the most effective way to go about it. If my husband were to do that, I'd think it was sweet, fatherly thing to do.

 

Just say it "accidently" got washed.

 

I'd go with this.

And as someone whose boys came home from school with lice (I don't know what the deal was but it was such a problem they actually checked the kids in class once a week for the entire school year.)

Go to the veterinarian supply or feed store or local vets. Ask for Mycodex dog shampoo with carbaryl. There are several varieties ... you need the one with carbaryl in it. Wash everything (kids, you, everyone's clothes, bed linens, EVERYTHING) in it once a week and you will not have a problem regardless of what is going on at school.

The principal (a family friend) was flabbergasted that my kids never had lice after the initial infestation got them sent home with a note. Said every other person in that school had had to get treatment at least 2 or 3 different times over the course of the year. He said it was too bad he couldn't recommend using dog shampoo to the other parents.

 

1: maybe he's just paranoid about lice?! we all have our phobia's at least he's trying to be good to the kids. 2: the green harts dog shampoo has twice the active ingrediant that ritt does and cost a lot less.

 

I guess he was just paranoid about the possibility of lice but still it was inappropriate to wash that child's coat. Hopefully the parents won't phone. I'd sure go along with the 'playing dumb' part if they do.

 

I'd have washed the coat once you left for Wal-mart just becaused you stopped me when I first was going to. Heheh.