Well i guess some back story is in order. my wife is diagnosed bi-polar. So needless to say their are some stresses their. Now over the years I have allowed myself to become angry from the situation and at times i do loose my temper. Now my wife became angry at me( i was a jerk in the past, but the power of Christ is changing that) for past hurts. Her Grandfather also had died the week before. Now over that week she sank lower into what appeared to be depression( granted this is all based off the limited information i had at the time) She wrote what appeared to be a suicide note(it was titled for"for my family if anything happens to me" it was telling us all goodbye), took a razor blade and cut here forearms with very shallow cuts.(the endorphins make here feel good) Told me she had wanted to take a entire bottle of pills. Now as we are talking and I am trying to get here to open up and talk or agree to check into the hospital she said something and I lost my temper and slammed my hands into the counter and yelled a loud swear word in a very angry manner.( 1st mistake) She then became emotional and started to go to the back room. I followed trying to comfort here I had already deescalated my anger and realized my mistake. I reached up to try and comfort her and apologize for loosing my temper and she said don't touch me. well i tried to reach up and grab her hand or arm( i don't remember witch) and continue to comfort and try to deescalate the situation. ( my second big mistake) At this point she flies into a rage and tries to leave the house with our kids. At this point i am already worried about a possible suicide attempt so I grabbed here from behind in a bear hug wrapped my arms around here and held her wrists. She began to fight so I let go grabbed the phone and stood in front of the door and called 911. She managed to pry the door open and i grabbed one arm as she slipped by me to leave. But once again she started fighting so i let go. It ends up she calmed down once she got on the road, but now she s trying to tell me I was being abusive. I know I didn't respond %100 percent correctly and I made mistakes in handling the situation. I guess my question is do you all consider my actions to be abusive?