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bigdogmom 05-20-2016 10:37 PM

***Ladies Section*** Tattoo Rant
 
Ok...so I am a 40 something year old female with four tattoos. My most recent tattoo is my most visible, but what it represents to me is a huge loss, mile stone and promise of the future. It was designed for me, through tears, by the most amazing tattoo artist I have ever met. All of my tattoos have very personal meaning to me...none of them were put on my body without a lot of thought or emotion. Each one of them has an emotional response from me personally.

Today, while my husband and I were setting up for our first gun show since our little gun shop opened, I was approached by a man in a wheel chair. I asked him if he needed assistance. His response was "I hate to see such a beautiful woman covered in tattoos". He could only see the one on my forearm. Without being rude, I tried to explain the meaning behind my tattoo to him, and he just wouldn't hear it.

Anyone else have an experience like this? I hate it, because I didn't get my first tattoo until way unto my 30's an every one of them has so much meaning to me, I couldn't imagine not having them.

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BadgeBunny 05-21-2016 12:01 AM

I could care less what anyone else thinks of my ink ... or my piercings ... or my hair color ... Granted, when I still worked I had to act like I cared but not now.

People who think they have some kind of right to pass judgement on your choices before getting to know you aren't worth a second thought ...

BabyBlue 05-21-2016 12:23 AM

The guy was out of line. Would he say "I really think those shoes are ugly." or "Why would a pretty girl like you marry such a dumb looking guy?" How about "That dress does nothing for you." Strange men commenting to a lady about how she looks is inappropriate. Even a compliment is inappropriate from a man you've never met. I hate to see the old manners being forgotten.

Texas Magnolia 05-21-2016 04:47 AM

I'm not going to lie, I'm not a fan of tats. However they don't bother me nearly as much as the loss of manners in our society. It's not anyone's business if you have a tat or not. It's absolutely rude of that man to say that.

People seem to think they have every right in the world to offer their opinion on every action another person has. Frankly it's not their business if my weight is more than they think it should be, if I dye my hair if I have a tattoo on my nose or if my children and grandchildren are a wide range of skin colors. People need to learn to close their lips more.

I think it's lovely you didn't respond to him by saying "I understand exactly how you feel, I don't care for it when people have the mistaken idea they should comment on my tat. Yet here we are, I have a tat and you've got a big mouth."

Obviously I'm grumpy tonight. Oh, and for the record, I have two tattoos even though I'm not a fan. lol

ksmama10 05-21-2016 08:50 AM

I'm not a tat fan either, but far better to be covered in tats than to possess an ugly heart. Unfortunately, pride is part of the human condition..making it all together too easy to judge others, rather than looking at our own shortcomings.

ATST 05-21-2016 09:07 AM

I think I'd have said "Oh my! I am so sorry that your mother didn't teach you better mannors" and then walked away briskly.

I got my first tat when I was 50+ and I may get another. They are for me, not anyone else, and I don't care what people think.

bigdogmom 05-21-2016 09:12 AM

I am usually pretty snappy when people are rude or inappropriate with me, but I think the whole thing stunned me. Here I am, surrounded by military veterans, feeling very proud and I see a guy, in a wheel chair, off in the parking lot by himself and looking my way, so I approached him, thinking he needed something and that is the response I got. Threw me for a loop, so I walked away.

Oh...I did see that I typed he approached me. I actually went up to him. I was typing after a long day and was frustrated.

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Mrs.sardog 05-21-2016 09:32 AM

I personally don't have any tats, but have thought a few times about getting one or two that as you said would have a special meaning to me.

As to what the man said, I agree that he was out of line. What a person does with their own body is their own choice and others should mind there own business if they can't say something positive.

PurpleKitty 05-21-2016 06:02 PM

I don't like tats. I don't like the look of them on people. I think they're a terrible waste of money. I would NEVER get one.

That said, I don't say anything. My brother has them. If he asked (but he doesn't care) I would tell him I'm not a fan.

I am generally subject to a lot of very rude comments about my hair. I grow it out and cut it. When I cut it a lot of people criticize me and get angry about it. Funny, I thought it was my hair. So, I get that.

Generally I am most criticized by people groups who have trouble growing long, wavy, hair. They get very angry I *dared* to "chop" it. I tell them they don't understand it's a big hassle and they shut up.

ATST 05-21-2016 06:27 PM

PK When people tell me what they don't like about my appearance, I simply toss the ball back: "Oh, I'm sorry, I must have lost your number. Please give it to me, so I can call you next time I want my hair done, which is preferably on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays at noon. I also get dressed every morning at 8am if you'd like to help do that too"

PurpleKitty 05-21-2016 07:10 PM

Oh, I just told them, "It's MY hair, right?" Then they'd mutter under their breath for a while. It was generally the women criticizing.

The men all told me I "looked cute" "Younger" etc. That's a lot more compliments than I got with long hair. It's been a couple months so everyone's pretty much got over it now.

I think another reason I don't like tats, personally, is the culture of ignorance tends to flaunt them. Many Houston gangs have a neck tat for the members, plus the RIP tats, kids name tats, sports team tat, etc. In their quest to be different, they've all assimilated.

*At least in Houston* the more intelligent, professional folk do not have visible tats, except for a few military veterans at work (with Marine or Navy tats). People are judged here in a way they wouldn't in, say, Seattle.

Jojo 05-21-2016 09:46 PM

Here is something very few people know - OR workers have been hiding a boatload of ink for a couple generations now. If the patient doesn't see it - it isn't there. It probably started with Drs and nurses from the military.
In my family the amount of inked skin seems to rise with salaries. My sister in law just finished her Anesthesiologist residency. She celebrated with a day in the studio and now her R calf is covered with koi fish.
I am one of the least inked people in my family. I have 4 medium sized ones. Like everyone says, they have special meaning. I have a pair of hummingbirds that were a wedding present from the best man at my first wedding. He owns a shop in Ft Smith. I will soon be visiting him again soon because my first husband died recently and I would like to add to the original in his memory.

bigdogmom 05-21-2016 10:31 PM

None of my tattoos are visible unless I want them to be. I just happened to be wearing a short sleeved shirt yesterday because I was unloading hundreds of pounds of ammo and got too hot for my jacket. The only time anyone would see them all is if I was in a bikini or naked.

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emh1701 05-21-2016 11:25 PM

Whatever happened to, if you can't think of anything nice to say to someone, keep your mouth shut?

Manners have really gone by the wayside in the past decade or so.

Batty 05-22-2016 01:11 AM

Funny story about tats. Both DH & I each have several and our kids frequently apply temp tats. The other day, our 5 yr old was applying some fresh ink. Big bro recently received a bunch of cool dragon tats so that's what she wanted. Walked into the living room to show off her new tattoo..... A giant orange dragon across her chest....�� Which then prompted a discussion about modesty and please don't show your new tat at school!

Anyway, dude was out of line and rude. Whatever your personal opinion is on tats, hair, clothing styles, etc., be polite and keep your opinions to yourself.

BabyBlue 05-22-2016 03:07 AM

I think it's perfectly proper for a woman to say a positive word to another woman. I commonly tell women a color they're wearing is good on them, or a dress is very pretty. And I've seen a few great tats, and said so. Family and close friends are almost required to say nice things. Only your mother gets to make non-positive comments.

Men you don't know NEVER get to comment on any part of your looks. They're supposed to at least pretend they do not have their eyes or opinions on other men's women.

ksmama10 05-22-2016 09:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Batty (Post 9985041)
Funny story about tats. Both DH & I each have several and our kids frequently apply temp tats. The other day, our 5 yr old was applying some fresh ink. Big bro recently received a bunch of cool dragon tats so that's what she wanted. Walked into the living room to show off her new tattoo..... A giant orange dragon across her chest....�� Which then prompted a discussion about modesty and please don't show your new tat at school!

Anyway, dude was out of line and rude. Whatever your personal opinion is on tats, hair, clothing styles, etc., be polite and keep your opinions to yourself.

I think I'm more of a temporary tats person..I've noticed my interests cycle, sometimes rather rapidly. It makes more sense for me to do something that reflects mood and interest of the day, rather than limit myself to something permanent. Too hard to choose..

And yes, keeping negative opinions private should be embraced by all.

LargeMarge 05-22-2016 11:12 AM

It's simple:

Your opinion of me is none of my business.

Good grief! If I lived according to other peoples' opinions of me, would I need to be socialist for one person, then non-political for the next? Living like a ping-pong ball?

A lot of stress fades away as I live from my center, true to my values.

PS: A woman with guns! Totally HOT!!!

ATST 05-22-2016 11:31 AM

Cowboys are not allowed to post in the ladies section, so if yer reading this bart, please remove your post

Batty 05-22-2016 01:19 PM

We all judge others on their appearance, I do it myself. That's just part of being human. As an employer, you should hire people you believe will represent your business the way you want it represented.

But voicing your opinion on someone's appearance is another matter. If you don't have something nice to say, keep it to yourself. Go home and vent about the idiot you saw with the neon green hair, neck tats or ridiculously stupid outfit.


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