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[sublimepatriot1776]

Hello all,

I am in abit of a pickle. Ive been married for alil over 6 months now, and God gave me most awesome wife. Praise and thank God. She was a naive, loving, giving, intelligent, school teacher who choose not to pay attention. Because small nudges didnt work I just flipped out and told her what was really to come. I sited the bible and showed her govt. documents and other proof. Suddenly she woke up, and wants to learn, but at the same time cant go to sleep until I come home (work nights). Shes watched some vids, but I dont know where to go from here.

Question: Ive had like a million plans, but after 18 months of trying just to break that ice, Ive lost sight of my plan. How do you introduce your woman into the world off....reality and whats coming? She has a bag dedicated and limited range time, but Ive spent so much time trying to awake her I have lost sight of how to training her (in survivalism, not training my wife)

Thanks for any help,
Josh

[123Testing]

The TV series Jericho. Watch a segment together, then start a discussion, after each segment. Discuss how would the 2 of you be able to handle a similar problem. Then create a potential plan.

Also... reading One Second After... give plenty 'food for thought' about various issues.

Teaching her how to shoot, is great, but if you can't grow a garden and store the harvest, you're going to Starve to death. There's tooooooooo many subjects to learn.

Baby steps.... baby steps.

EDIT: Discuss everything that went wrong with Katrina. There's an eye-opener of why you shouldn't put your faith in the Gov saving you.

[BrowserCat]

Well, I'd say chuck the 'million plans' and work together to come up with one that works for you both.

And stop calling her your 'woman'. We wives are not property.

[joes]

Originally Posted by sublimepatriot1776

Hello all,

I am in abit of a pickle. Ive been married for alil over 6 months now, and God gave me most awesome wife. Praise and thank God. She was a naive, loving, giving, intelligent, school teacher who choose not to pay attention. Because small nudges didnt work I just flipped out and told her what was really to come. I sited the bible and showed her govt. documents and other proof. Suddenly she woke up, and wants to learn, but at the same time cant go to sleep until I come home (work nights). Shes watched some vids, but I dont know where to go from here.

Question: Ive had like a million plans, but after 18 months of trying just to break that ice, Ive lost sight of my plan. How do you introduce your woman into the world off....reality and whats coming? She has a bag dedicated and limited range time, but Ive spent so much time trying to awake her I have lost sight of how to training her (in survivalism, not training my wife)

Thanks for any help,
Josh

As you have stated GOD gave you the most awesome wife...You both now are aware of the importance of a plan...Try not to think too complex....As a couple you are doing better than most people...Go for walks together and discuss communication problems if a disaster occures and you are separated...Build up stores of various food items...Get yourselves a firearm for protection and go target shooting.....Think more in basic terms and you will do fine....

[chipmunk]

1st of all you refer to "the reality", hers may be different. Remember that we are all given brains to consider our experiences and interpret what we see. Now you have a fresh perspective and the two of you together have a wider view, and more adaptablity to overcome what ever challenges may come.

[OhioMan]

1st, she should have known your views BEFORE you got married 6 Months ago and now you want to "awake" her to a reality you believe....that's not very fair is it?

[Rosesandtea]

I'm with Ohio Man, I think you should have discussed this before marriage. However, things are what they are and it sounds like you've already got the ball rolling.

Keep studying together, and compare notes. Growing food is always a good thing - it has all sorts of benefits even if one is not a "prepper" or "survivalist." Firearms training also has lots of benefits beyond the obvious.

Listen to some survival podcasts together (or separately, and then compare notes). Podcasts really helped my husband wake up to some things.

Keep communicating, keep studying - and make your plans together.

Oh, I'm one woman who doesn't mind being both my husbands "wife" and "woman." He's my man, I'm his woman. I'm his, he's mine. Not any more possessive than wife or husband, although "woman" is slightly more primative (not always a good thing, but sometimes it's *very* good ).

[SgtBooker44]

Make it a team effort.

Decide where you want to be in 6 months, 12 months 2 years and work to those goals.

[Diddy]

Try throwing different situations / scenarios at her to see how she would cope with them - the "what ifs". Try to see her mind set and come to resolutions together based on the input from both of you.

If she has any hobbies that can be incorporated into prepping then start with them i.e. sewing, canning, gardening, organizational skills etc... anything that is useful. Each person has their own strengths and weaknesses. Focus on her strengths and she may not feel so overwhelmed with the whole process.

[Smudge]

Originally Posted by Diddy

Try throwing different situations / scenarios at her to see how she would cope with them - the "what ifs". Try to see her mind set and come to resolutions together based on the input from both of you.

I dont discuss what ifs myself, I can see how it might help though.

Originally Posted by Diddy

If she has any hobbies that can be incorporated into prepping then start with them i.e. sewing, canning, gardening, organizational skills etc... anything that is useful. Each person has their own strengths and weaknesses. Focus on her strengths and she may not feel so overwhelmed with the whole process.

This is excellent advice, this is where I'm at with my wife. For the most part she thinks I'm a little off kilter, but she can see things are bad in the world and some of the things that might happen. I encourage and help her with gardening, sewing, crafts and anything else she shows an interest in upto and including hedgewitchery.

[Diddy]

Thanks Smudge. Might I inquire what "hedgewitchery" is?

My wife thinks I'm a little off kilter too but she lets me go about the business of gathering without too much fuss. She just rolls her eyes at my "stash" as she calls it.

[Sapper6]

If you are coming from a Biblical perspective, make sure her attitude and focus are correct.

http://survival360.net/SpiritualDefe...rvivalism.html

[VolclaeDesign]

Even the best laid plans can go out the window when the Fit hits the Shan!!
Keep a few things listed and easy to remember!!
Lamenated paper with the bare essentials at the ready.
Talk about the same things over and over but in a nonchalant manner.. almost jokingly, so as not to scare anyone who is a bit niave...
this will in turn be ingrained in the minds of you and your loved ones!! Wether they/you
realize it or not.
Once those skills need to be deployed, you will all be prepared!!

[Westfalia]

I would suggest that you start out easy and move from there. This is my suggestion for you if you’re getting started and thinking about where to move from there.

If she is onboard you are already on your way. Best of lucks!

[harlequin]

why don't you take her camping, fishing, take her to the woods and both walk around identifying edible plants, make a date out of it, make it fun and have a good time together while learning.

[Smudge]

Originally Posted by Diddy

Thanks Smudge. Might I inquire what "hedgewitchery" is?

The answer to that depends on which witch you ask lol, mainly she has an interest in medicinal plants and their uses though.

Originally Posted by Diddy

She just rolls her eyes at my "stash" as she calls it.

I know that one

[chipmunk]

Originally Posted by OhioMan

1st, she should have known your views BEFORE you got married 6 Months ago and now you want to "awake" her to a reality you believe....that's not very fair is it?

Ya know you said it better than I could. I cant imagine commiting my life to someone who didnt know my honest feelings and had no idea of my lifestyle. I would much prefer a partner in life, this has parent child written all over it.

[boomerscaboose]

I can sure understand that you were concerned about things, love her and want her on your page as far as preparing goes.

However, from here on I can't stress enough to not overly dwell on things being bad, disaster coming, etc. You still need to live in the present world and pursue happiness and all that goes into a relationship. Don't live in Doomsdayworld or you may end up sending her packing.

That said, we live a preparedness, self-sufficient lifestyle. We are not there yet as far as being self sufficient but we are striving toward that end on a daily basis but we also have a "yes there are two paths you can go by approach" (Stairway to Heaven, Led Zeppelin).

Path one is that things end up more normal (which I doubt) and we bought my daughter an electric music keyboard for Christmas. Path two is that I also buy my daughter an acoustic guitar in case there is no electricity.

I try to live in both worlds and enjoy the present as much as possible while still moving toward self-sufficiency.

I think balance and moderation is the key with give and take mixed in.

[sublimepatriot1776]

She knew my views and opinions since we were dating. She agrees with me on many subjects, but tries to only think of the good in life. I am just trying to prepare her for what may come. Coming from Buffalo, NY your not going to run into a lot of woman that are already into bushcraft, survivalism, or even conservative principles.

[sublimepatriot1776]

Thanks for the advice.

Please drop the assumptions. I am no chauvinist. She calls me her man, so I can and will call her "my woman". She is my equal, not my property.