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#46
11-07-2009, 01:08 AM
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Wow...the things everyone has been through.
My first ex-husband was the man I lost my virginity to. Yes, I was the good girl who didn't date and sleep around. Of course, after a couple of years, we started drifting apart. And seeing condoms in the trash...him spending hours on the computer. Then I asked him what he wanted from me...we were too distant. He wanted a week alone to think so he visited his mom and then came back wanting a divorce. I peeked at his email then and saw an email from his friend congratulating him about some relationship and they were asking if it was a real world or online relationship. Three months after the divorce, he was moving off to Texas to get married. I won't claim I was a great wife but I wasn't running off to get married. Obviously something had been going on for a while. The second exhusband...lets say he was what solidified me becoming rather nocturnal. I felt safer to be alert and distant. He was always mad too. If dinner wasn't done when he came home, he was mad. If it was cold, he was mad. Well, it would have been easier to have it done just right if he would let me know if he was going to be early or late. I wasn't allowed to have a job or go to college. I couldn't have a car (and there was no city transportation where we lived). I had to justify when I did get the car from him even if it was to get groceries. And he had to have a brand new laser printer (he barely used), the video camera (he used ONCE), the latest game console, brand new laptop, and other useless things all in the span of a year on his one income. His anger and abuse got to where I couldn't justify his actions no matter how deluded I tried to be. When I left him, it got so bad that my sister changed her phone number. He made my mom cry with some of the awful things he said. I had to disappear to get away. At first, my family was thinking I should try to work it out with him but they didn't see the side he kept hidden until I left him. Quote:
Sounds like you found a good match.  color me green with envy...
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#47
11-07-2009, 02:33 AM
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#48
11-07-2009, 03:43 AM
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I might visit the D&D shop that's 45 miles away but I haven't really done heavy D&D. The area around here is rather dull. Maybe I could just start up a hiking group. I don't know how that'd go over.
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11-07-2009, 09:27 PM
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 Sorry to hear about your past experiences with husbands. I've heard some bad stories about what some women have put up with. Makes you wonder who the heck raised these guys. 
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11-07-2009, 09:56 PM
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I'm not much of an online game player, but a few years back some of my local friends started playing an online game and I followed along. In my few years there I met hundreds of the lowest quality people to infest the Earth, and that's saying a lot considering I'm from El Paso. One after another I met 4 ladies and got involved with them, only to find out that each of them was absolutely identical to each other. Total psychos, with the exact same character flaws, same lies and hypocrisy, etc. Yet I know they weren't the same person. I did meet a good friend that I'm still friends with to this day, so I guess it wasn't all bad. I doubt I'll ever swim again in the cesspool that is online games. That's a shame too, because I enjoyed the game. It's the people I couldn't stand. I'd rather take my chances on an online dating site first. At least the old saying "You can tell more about a person in an hour of gaming, than a month of conversation" is true. If you're observant and know what to look for, you can spot the undesirables easier there than just about anywhere else, because they show more of what they're made of, without realizing that they're doing it. I miss the days of pencil and paper RPGs, especially D&D.
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11-07-2009, 10:19 PM
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...ok nightfall, dont rub in the obvious...sort of along the lines of phoning somebody to let them know not to phone you because you dont want to talk to them...must be the water..
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#54
11-07-2009, 11:13 PM
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I think that everyone gets discouraged at times.
I've been single for over a year. My x wife divorced me in the worst place I've ever lived. I HATE WV. I'm attracted to intellectual Italian, Hispanic, and Asian girls... and I am SURROUNDED by fat, toothless, single mother white trash. I LOATHE this place. I get along with everyone, but there are very few people here I even trust to come over to my house - much less date. I have found that people vary wildly depending on where they are raised. Where I am from, people value independence and successs. Here, they value family. That's why so many women spit out kids like they're in a race, and there are so many fat people. Where I live right now is the most obese area in the country. Serioulsy. It's disgusting. I have a little bit of pudge myself and around here people think I'm "skinny." WTF Where I'm from, the average girl is kinda short, average to slender, and articulate and educated. Where I live now, a girl has a huge chip on her shoulder and acts like a mini celebrity if she's just slender.... because she has guys hitting on her CONSTANTLY! There are so few women who wear less than a size 20, that your average man around here does not care about personality at all. It's crazy! Sorry for my b1tch session here, but where I live horrifies me. In addition to there being so many ugly, illiterate people here, they all seem to have a bajillion kids that they can't really afford. I live in the west end of Huntington right now, and whenever I got to the grocery store, literally 3/4 of the people in line ahead of me are buying groceries with food stamps. That's disgusting. So whenever someone asks me why I've been single so long, I just say I live in WV. My friends on the west coast understand. People around here just give me a blank look. They think that all these obnoxious, chain smoking, blonde, single mother lard asses that populate this town are keepers. Anything warm to stick it in, I guess. Well, screw that. Not literally, of course. I have standards, and I will not sacrifice my happiness or self respect to lower myself just to not be lonely. I REFUSE. -BB
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11-07-2009, 11:20 PM
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11-07-2009, 11:51 PM
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I think online dating is a viable tool, but it should only be used as a tool. Not the only way to meet people. The area you live in matters too. In Seattle, there are LOTS of attractive, successful, normal people who use online dating. In more rural areas, it seems to be populated by more people who can't get a date any other way - especially women. Men have to work to meet people. A good looking girl really just had to dress up and stand in a corner by herself. This is why online dating will ALWAYS be populated by more men than women. -BB
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11-08-2009, 08:31 PM
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11-09-2009, 04:55 PM
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wow
You all aren't gonna believe this, but I have a date on Friday....
And I have high hopes for this one too! -BB
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11-09-2009, 09:49 PM
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-BB
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