Meeting a Guy Into Prepping?

[Mominator]

Originally Posted by Rvnquest

At least you get asked out. That is a plus. I don't get asked out. I think there was one guy since I was divorced in 1995 that asked ME out. All others I asked, or was an internet thing.

If you get asked out or a man says yes if you ask him out it is a compliment. In my case it is an insult. I am struggling for a way to explain this so it will make sense. To be honest it is one of those things I have to find a way to say so that I can get it out of my head because it is making me nuts right now.

The men asking me out are an insult because I am better than that. You see they are not asking out a woman. I seriously doubt I even register as a woman to them. So far I have been asked out by men who show up on the online lists of sexual predators for taking liberties with young children, a number of men who followed me out of the hardware store into the parking lot after seeing me spend huge sums of money (I have to turn some cash into business expenses to avoid a huge tax hit this year so I have no choice there) and hearing me discuss being widowed with the cashier (who is a friend that lost a grandchild recently), some man down the street who showed up at my door a few weeks after reading my husband’s obit (he was drunk and randomly babbling about being dumped by some woman and needing “a good woman” – still trying to figure that out but the fact that he kept calling her a “selfish B**** which says it all) and a few random phone calls from men who claim to have been friends with my husband who I can tell were people he did not know… seriously hubs name can be pronounced 2 ways and one poor fool use the wrong pronunciation! Yep they were really good friends I guess - LOL

I am not saying I am better than another person I am saying that I am a good enough person I do not deserve to be treated that way but it seems to be par for the course if you are widowed. It happens to almost every widow or widower out there to some extent. I have actually been widowed twice and the first time it was more of the sort who wanted to offer physical comfort if you understand my meaning. Back then I was young and bluntly a little too pretty for my own good. Luckily I am not the sort to fall for that so I survived that “temptation” with my dignity intact. Now I am 45 with a baby and enough work to kill a horse so I am chubby, middle age and cannot even remember where my makeup case is half the time so I get the other sort. If I had less money it would be more of the insecure ones that want a mommy more than a wife. It is not only demeaning it is depressing because after a while it starts to feel that is the only sort of man that sees you are female and they do not even really see that you are a person just a means to an end.

[Brenda]

I agree. I'm single and a parent. I'm doing what I can on my own. It's not easy, but easier than arguing with someone over buying the little bit extra when things are on sale. I am starting to see, or maybe just noticed, there are alot more of single women that are silently prepping than I originally thought. Glad to see that.

[Piurivar]

Originally Posted by Gypsymoonfarm

You know, I was just thinking how funny it is that there is a post lamenting this subject on a forum entirely filled with guys who are survivalist/preppers.

It IS funny, I thought of that too
But as I laugh at the concept, I don't know how to sift through the guys here to find one I would get along with. I tried to join the singles group, never got a reply from the moderator, don't know if it's a dead group or what. That's actually how I first found this site, following links looking for a prepper singles group. (Decided I like it here and stayed! Thank you ladies :D)
Someone on a different thread said something about having a lot of "survival" skills, but not the social skills to be able to communicate that to others. I have a fair amount of useful skills, but people skills are hard for me (low grade Aspergers or something) in the best of times, and harder when I'm feeling scared and overwhelmed by current events. I feel like it's twice as hard, trying to find someone I can talk to in the first place, then find one that is into this...
I have serious health issues, am trying to come back to life after 15 years of being so sick I can't function. It's hard to imagine a good guy would be interested in someone who may crash and burn again.
I'm not happy with being alone in all this, I just have no idea what can be done about it.
Sorry for the rant... I'll get through this stage, I'm sure, it's just bad today...

[robbi]

It is hard as a single woman trying to be a prepper/self sufficiant isn't it. I have been single for 10 years and have managed to keep my farm afloat and raise my son at the same time.
I have tried dating once or twice during this time but without much success, I have lost the ability to humour a man his inadequacies and complaints when he has nothing to be complaining about.
In my quiet times I think it would be great too have a man in my life but at the moment my son and my farm are my priorities.
My last adventure into dating ended abruptly when the man came to visit me but was too scared to come down my drive way as my dogs were at the gate and my sons pony was in the house yard. The dogs weren't barking once I arrived at the gate and the pony is only 12 hands, he wanted them all locked away before coming onto the property, he had told me he was a dog lover before actually meeting them face to face.
I am so pleased to have found so many like minded women to share my lifes ups and downs with on this forum, as many of my friends dont share my prepping beliefs it is a side to myself that is very private and special

[Rvnquest]

That "singles" thread must be dead, or very exclusive. I didn't get a response either.

[robbi]

Originally Posted by Rvnquest

That "singles" thread must be dead, or very exclusive. I didn't get a response either.

Neither did I

[Piurivar]

Maybe someone (not me!!) should start a new singles group... (me hides under the couch, not me!!) Someone who is good at people...
Tell me if you do!