Divorce & Prepping

[KrytteR]

So I was watchin Doomsday Preppers on Nat Geo last night, and one of the families they showed raised an interesting question...How do you handle a messy divorce? Doesnt that raise a whole new set of concerns? Certainly your location is comprimised, and what if, for example, the ex were to show up in apparent bad shape after SHTF, could it be a trap?

I hope I got this in the right spot!

[JoeKan]

IMHO, the best way to handle a divorce is to never go through one.

[KrytteR]

Amen Joe....Amen

[Tuirc]

Wow! I'm glad none of my clients came to me with something like that when I was practicing. I'll take a crack at it. Assuming I'm representing him.

Equitable division of real and personal property. I didn't see the episode, so I don't know if we are talking a house and a BOL. Let's assume we are. Personal property -- all those preps would have to be divided. Assuming she gets custody and he gets visitation, it would be rational that she would get most of the preps too since they are for keeping them alive. I'd try to get him most of the firearms as compensation or a vehicle or something.

House and BOL - assuming they both wanted both. I'd try to give her the BOL (now she has the security problem), try to get him the house. Very thin ice here. There would have to be mess of horse trading to get this done. It depends on a lot of things, finances, credit cards, whether her parents gave them the house, whether she hates the paint in the master bath, lots of stuff. Might have to give her the family dog too.

In the end, it probably won't matter about the BOL. Both are going to want the kids to be safe, so they are both going to have to know how to get them there if they have them. As a practical matter you may end up with that ex-spouse in your BOL. Unless you say, "Give me the kids, now get out!" LOL. I wouldn't put it past some divorcing cpls but, let's hope there is a little human compassion left.

[bnkrtstk]

Originally Posted by JoeKan

IMHO, the best way to handle a divorce is to never get married.

FIFY

[Slats]

My wife told me if I wanted out I had to die.
No other escape clause is available.

Since she is a better shot than I am she has told me she would be willing to expedite the process under the right circumstances. (Blond, Brunette, Red head etc.).

My only real concern is that she would sell some of my guns after I died for what I “TOLD” her I paid for them.

[JustaCountryGirl]

I saw that episode as well - my thought was - "One of the things people forget when working on preps is to work on their relationships"
this seems especially true when one partner is not a prepper
just my .02

[Tuirc]

@Countrygirl I agree. I've seen some pretty creepy episodes lately. One spouse is a prepper and the other isn't. The psychologist dude and his Cambodian wife comes to mind. He plans their BOL in a cave and she survived a traumatic exodus from Cambodia fleeing the Khmer Rouge living in caves etc and is completely freaked out about it.

Luckily for us, I'm the more reluctant one, so we're pretty much on the same page.

[British Red]

Originally Posted by KrytteR

If the ex were to show up in apparent bad shape after SHTF, could it be trap?

Could be, but more likely to be skeet if I can find a powerful enough thrower.

[awka]

Originally Posted by Tuirc

@Countrygirl I agree. I've seen some pretty creepy episodes lately. One spouse is a prepper and the other isn't. The psychologist dude and his Cambodian wife comes to mind. He plans their BOL in a cave and she survived a traumatic exodus from Cambodia fleeing the Khmer Rouge living in caves etc and is completely freaked out about it.

Luckily for us, I'm the more reluctant one, so we're pretty much on the same page.

The Doctor wasn't aware of his wife having hid in a cave though, right? I've only seen two episodes of this show, but even though a cave seems like a weird BOL he didn't seem particularly freaky from what I remember. His wife had obviously been through hell, and was very bothered by the thought of ever being hungry, homeless, etc. again BUT she hadn't exactly been forthcoming in sharing the details, and if IIRC, he agreed in the end to back off a bit, and that a cave wasn't the best idea he ever had.

The one prepper who gave me the icks in the episodes I watched was the seed saving guy who claimed all kinds of people were out to get him. Saving seeds is cool, but he just seemed extremely, extremely...odd.

It would be interesting to imagine trying to divide a lifetime of preps in a divorce. A divorce is one thing that tipped my interest towards preparedness. It would be weird hashing out who kept the 100 cans of hash.

[SCPigpen]

Lucky for me my exwife was drug addict who ran off with a dude she met at rehab and didnt even show up for the divorce hearing.

Now I know that does not sound right but thats the way it is so why sugar coat it?

[ShaynaGirl]

I have never been through a divorce myself, but I witnessed all kinds of stuff from the sidelines.

A good prenuptial or postnuptial agreement is a vital piece of planning.

I would rather make these decisions when I am deeply in love than during all the angst of a divorce.

[occam]

Originally Posted by SCPigpen

Lucky for me my exwife was drug addict who ran off with a dude she met at rehab and didnt even show up for the divorce hearing.

Somewhere in that sentence is the makings of a good country song.

[SCPigpen]

Originally Posted by occam

Somewhere in that sentence is the makings of a good country song.

Yeah, id have to add somthing about my mama, trains, trucks, the dog and getting drunk.

[whirlibird]

Originally Posted by occam

Somewhere in that sentence is the makings of a good country song.

"She got her boyfriend, I got the rest............"

[awka]

Originally Posted by whirlibird

"She got her boyfriend, I got the rest............"

.....of the Mountain House freeze-dried...All my preps put to the test....Now I'm packing a Ruger inside this Carharrt vest....From a bunker in Idaho, I wish them both the best.....

[PreppinMouse]

Originally Posted by SCPigpen

Yeah, id have to add somthing about my mama, trains, trucks, the dog and getting drunk.

AND crops in the field..............

[txflyboy]

Originally Posted by SCPigpen

Yeah, id have to add somthing about my mama, trains, trucks, the dog and getting drunk.

You forgot prison.

"Well I was drunk, the day my Momma got out of prison"........

[SoCalSurvivor]

Haha I like the song so far.

[The Saint]

yep Id go along with the joint custody thing, that is until the SHTF then I would be the first one at the BOL and then all bets are off.