My own date in these tough times

[Mal]

Ahh the good old days of AD&D, Traveller, paper and pencil role playing, and ftf gaming. I miss'em.

If you have an 80 level paladin then it may be a good indication you're not dating much. Yes, I have an 80 lv character so I can speak from experience. :P LFG?

Best of luck with your date Friday BB.

[bulrush]

(Peter and Lois are half dressed in the bedroom.)

Peter: I'm an 80th level paladin, with a +5 mace, +6 plate mail, and helm of disintegration.

Lois: Wait...a paladin can't use the helm of disintegration!

Peter: Ok. So I'm a black guy...

[BumblingBear]

Originally Posted by Mal

Ahh the good old days of AD&D, Traveller, paper and pencil role playing, and ftf gaming. I miss'em.

If you have an 80 level paladin then it may be a good indication you're not dating much. Yes, I have an 80 lv character so I can speak from experience. :P LFG?

Best of luck with your date Friday BB.

Lol thanks.

My x wife and I used to play the WoW crack, but I had to quit cold turkey. I got nothing done!

She hated WoW when I played - she was jealous. I had to get her hooked too just to shut her up.

She really was a terrible healer too. People just played with her because they saw her myspace page and she was pretty.


-BB

[2xs]

Wow people really bash this online dating thing, that they are a bunch of losers and liers. Been on match for about 12 years, I have met many of intresting ladies. Some have been fun, others were abit whacko, but none that ever posted pictures that were never of themselves. Oh and I like to think I am not a loser =).

Also if you do go the online route don't drag out the e-mail thing. Share couple of them, and then get him on the phone, you never know, you might love the words he writes, but his voice might totally turn you off =). As a guy I don't worry much about this, but as a woman.. always let someone know you are meeting a guy for the first time, that you met online, and the place you are to meet, just a sensiable precaution these days.

I am happy to let you know Nightfall that I have met someone through online dating that I am growing to like alot more then I like to admit to myself =). Kind of funny this is the second try she gave me. She told me she sent me a letter about 2 years ago, and I never replied, and decided to try again about 4 months ago, which I am very happy I did reply to. We have been going steady for over 3 months now. I tell her how happy I am that she gave me a second chance LOL.

I am a nice guy, and I am a firm believer that nice guys end up first! If I am doing the online thing, I am sure there is alot of guys like me online too. BTW if you didn't figure it out in the above text, it was my GF that got ahold of me online. Sometimes as a woman you have to be proactive .).

[sniperfx]

post a picture of yourself, and you will get asked out!!!

[nightfall]

Originally Posted by 2xs

Wow people really bash this online dating thing, that they are a bunch of losers and liers. Been on match for about 12 years, I have met many of intresting ladies. Some have been fun, others were abit whacko, but none that ever posted pictures that were never of themselves. Oh and I like to think I am not a loser =).

Also if you do go the online route don't drag out the e-mail thing. Share couple of them, and then get him on the phone, you never know, you might love the words he writes, but his voice might totally turn you off =). As a guy I don't worry much about this, but as a woman.. always let someone know you are meeting a guy for the first time, that you met online, and the place you are to meet, just a sensiable precaution these days.

I am happy to let you know Nightfall that I have met someone through online dating that I am growing to like alot more then I like to admit to myself =). Kind of funny this is the second try she gave me. She told me she sent me a letter about 2 years ago, and I never replied, and decided to try again about 4 months ago, which I am very happy I did reply to. We have been going steady for over 3 months now. I tell her how happy I am that she gave me a second chance LOL.

I am a nice guy, and I am a firm believer that nice guys end up first! If I am doing the online thing, I am sure there is alot of guys like me online too. BTW if you didn't figure it out in the above text, it was my GF that got ahold of me online. Sometimes as a woman you have to be proactive .).

Nice story. I don't think everyone online are losers. I'm not a very talkative person so online can sometimes be a nice medium for me.

I spoke with my aunt this Thanksgiving and she found someone online too. She tried several different websites and found someone she has now been married to for 3 years. And she's 71.

Originally Posted by sniperfx

post a picture of yourself, and you will get asked out!!!

LOL I probably would. Maybe say something like...up for some survivalism training, then have to weed out who would not get along well with me. But I also know from past experience that some put too much on looks and it's not enough to hold a relationship together.

[TheUndert0ker]

Well the fact that you'd go to a nerdy D&D store for fun piques my nerd interest.

Keep trying I'm sure there's someone out there for you. Not like me, because I'm seriously from another planet.

[BumblingBear]

Originally Posted by 2xs

Wow people really bash this online dating thing, that they are a bunch of losers and liers. Been on match for about 12 years, I have met many of intresting ladies. Some have been fun, others were abit whacko, but none that ever posted pictures that were never of themselves. Oh and I like to think I am not a loser =).

Also if you do go the online route don't drag out the e-mail thing. Share couple of them, and then get him on the phone, you never know, you might love the words he writes, but his voice might totally turn you off =). As a guy I don't worry much about this, but as a woman.. always let someone know you are meeting a guy for the first time, that you met online, and the place you are to meet, just a sensiable precaution these days.

I am happy to let you know Nightfall that I have met someone through online dating that I am growing to like alot more then I like to admit to myself =). Kind of funny this is the second try she gave me. She told me she sent me a letter about 2 years ago, and I never replied, and decided to try again about 4 months ago, which I am very happy I did reply to. We have been going steady for over 3 months now. I tell her how happy I am that she gave me a second chance LOL.

I am a nice guy, and I am a firm believer that nice guys end up first! If I am doing the online thing, I am sure there is alot of guys like me online too. BTW if you didn't figure it out in the above text, it was my GF that got ahold of me online. Sometimes as a woman you have to be proactive .).

My gf found me online too. I met my x wife on myspace and my x fiance before her online too.

I've noticed a higher quality in people I've met from online. Probably because of the pre-screening process.

Literacy is important to me, so it's nice to make sure that a girl doesn't write like a 'tard before asking her out too.

-BB

[exspooky]

remember this ,grasshopper, no matter how great the sex is ,how rich they are,or how good looking they are;somebody is already tired of (her/his )crap.
They are playing the game for the first six months ,the same as you are,on their best behavior.Share a stressful situation to get to know someone's true nature.
ALL PUPPIES,BABIES, AND KITTENS ARE CUTE FOR SIX MONTHS ,THEN REALITY STEPS IN.

[BumblingBear]

Originally Posted by exspooky

remember this ,grasshopper, no matter how great the sex is ,how rich they are,or how good looking they are;somebody is already tired of (her/his )crap.
They are playing the game for the first six months ,the same as you are,on their best behavior.Share a stressful situation to get to know someone's true nature.
ALL PUPPIES,BABIES, AND KITTENS ARE CUTE FOR SIX MONTHS ,THEN REALITY STEPS IN.

Not necessarily. Could be that the person you're with got tired of the other person's crap.

Just sayin'...

-BB

[bravo1983]

Originally Posted by nightfall

Okay, I have not been in the dating scene for some time. My last boyfriend, I dated him for 3 years although we lived together for 5 years (because of the economy was going downhill). So, now the ex-boyfriend has moved out a year ago, I hadn't been on the dating scene for 6 years! When I sat back and thought about this, I thought this was rather disturbing.

This past weekend, I saw the movie Zombieland and thought I seem to be a shut-in in some ways. (How can a shut in do good cardio? He had a tower of pizza boxes too. So I don't see how he could he be in such shape. Yes, the movie was one of those just for fun Anyhow, I digress...)

So, last week...
A guy said "You must get asked out a lot." Of course, if you are only going to work and home, how can you be asked out. So my first date with someone new after 6 years... YIKES... I think I've become an inarticulate shut-in. Not that I have ever been talkative in the real world, but it's become worse.... Stumbling with my words and trying to vocalize my thoughts. Ever see the movie Head Over Heels? At least she was a little elegant and funny as she stumbled on her words. Although he was nice and bought me dinner, I think I am beyond hope. He's a hunter guy, very gentlemanly opening the door (although I'm used to doing whatever I need to for myself without much help)... I don't know if I'm lady-like enough to date someone like him. I'm too much the sort to bring out the axe to chop the wood by myself as needed instead of asking a man to do it for me.

<sigh> Oh well.
It seems too late in life for me to be hitting the dating world. How many singles do we have here on the board? How long has it been since you went out on a date?

I met my wife online. That's prolly the only way it would have worked. I get so nervous, it's hard to be smooth while stuttering. But we started texting and then every thing was cool. It gave me a second to think before I said something. And we wernt face to face so I got to know her without the pressure. My advice is don't go on a dating site. Start looking here. I met my wife on a pagan site. Religion is very important to me so thats the site where I started looking. If survival is number one then start looking at survival boards. BTW you will always think its too late to start dating but after I gave up I met her. It will happen just take your time. I hope this helps.

[mikea46996]

I have almost given up on dating...

I am a country boy I raise chickens, garden, PREP, like guns, CC everyday. It is hard to meet anybody who is not caught up in their current lifestyle and seem to not have a clue.

I had been on a couple dates with this girl and she noticed my sidearm when she put her arm around my waist as we were waiting in line for a movie. She FREAKED out, I couldn't even explain she wanted to be taken home right then and sat as close to the door as possible, like I was going to kill her.

I am amazed at the amount of people who are lost.

In general conversation with a friend of a friend who I was interested in I brought up the constitution and the founding fathers, she says" That was then this is now it is not important.

I left so fast I was a blur.

I would rather have somebody in my life but if they are not of the same mindset and somewhat self reliant (read I don't have to worry about them dying if am stuck away from home and trying to get home in a SHTF type thing) I will be happy with my dog. At least if I die she can eat me to survive.

It's tough, I refuse to date sheeple, if I am going to be with someone I want to be happy not just together so I can avoid being lonely.

[bulrush]

Originally Posted by nightfall

But I also know from past experience that some put too much on looks and it's not enough to hold a relationship together.

Very true.

[bulrush]

Originally Posted by mikea46996

I had been on a couple dates with this girl and she noticed my sidearm when she put her arm around my waist as we were waiting in line for a movie. She FREAKED out, I couldn't even explain she wanted to be taken home right then and sat as close to the door as possible, like I was going to kill her.

I am amazed at the amount of people who are lost.

Better to be yourself right away, and see how they react, than play games for 6-12 months. That's how I see it. I'm not ashamed that I live in a small house. I'm proud that it's mine. It shows I bought enough house, and not too much. Many people lost their houses because they bought too much house and did not leave any "wiggle room" for when one of them lost their jobs. I'm not ashamed that I have a used car (8 years old). It's paid for, and shows I have good money management skills. However under valued that may be these days.

Glad you found out early she was a wacko.

[ConnieD]

I met someone so determined to be himself, I see why he is alone.

I want to be comfortable, but sheesh!

Whatever happened to partner-up? Add good chemistry, and voila!

I am single and staying single, and I'm 62. Don't even think about it.

[BumblingBear]

Originally Posted by mikea46996

I have almost given up on dating...

I am a country boy I raise chickens, garden, PREP, like guns, CC everyday. It is hard to meet anybody who is not caught up in their current lifestyle and seem to not have a clue.

I had been on a couple dates with this girl and she noticed my sidearm when she put her arm around my waist as we were waiting in line for a movie. She FREAKED out, I couldn't even explain she wanted to be taken home right then and sat as close to the door as possible, like I was going to kill her.

I am amazed at the amount of people who are lost.

In general conversation with a friend of a friend who I was interested in I brought up the constitution and the founding fathers, she says" That was then this is now it is not important.

I left so fast I was a blur.

I would rather have somebody in my life but if they are not of the same mindset and somewhat self reliant (read I don't have to worry about them dying if am stuck away from home and trying to get home in a SHTF type thing) I will be happy with my dog. At least if I die she can eat me to survive.

It's tough, I refuse to date sheeple, if I am going to be with someone I want to be happy not just together so I can avoid being lonely.

This is why I always find out a girl's stance on guns and everything else important to me before dating.

I like to know about her sexual history, if she has kids, any drug use, etc. as well.

I hate to waste time and money. I think dating would be easier for everyone if we realized that dating, like everything else has been diversified into a consumer market. People everywhere now are so different that the initial physical attraction is NOT enough. Compatibility is a tricky thing.

-BB

[bravo1983]

[QUOTE=
I hate to waste time and money. I think dating would be easier for everyone if we realized that dating, like everything else has been diversified into a consumer market. People everywhere now are so different that the initial physical attraction is NOT enough. Compatibility is a tricky thing.

-BB[/QUOTE]

My first date was at the ER, Second laundry mat, Third, the park. Yeah just call me Romeo

[nightfall]

Originally Posted by TheUndert0ker

Well the fact that you'd go to a nerdy D&D store for fun piques my nerd interest.

Keep trying I'm sure there's someone out there for you. Not like me, because I'm seriously from another planet.

LOL ...I sometimes wonder if I'm on the wrong planet too.
But yeah, I like D&D shops. The one over here also has anime. The D&D books were nice to have when I was RPing. I don't have an 80th level Paladin though. LOL

Originally Posted by mikea46996

It's tough, I refuse to date sheeple, if I am going to be with someone I want to be happy not just together so I can avoid being lonely.

I agree with you there.

There is a gal I've met recently who is one of those types of sheeple that must have a man. She'd put up with anything just to not be alone. I can't understand that. I told her she should value herself more but there's only so much you do.

Maybe the gal needs to know you carry before you get to a point of an embrace and discovery of a gun. I hope you have better luck dating.

Originally Posted by bravo1983

I met my wife online. That's prolly the only way it would have worked. I get so nervous, it's hard to be smooth while stuttering. But we started texting and then every thing was cool.

Yeah, online does help. I'm not much of a talker. Typing is much easier. I'm definitely not the type of gal that spends hours on the phone... well, unless the person on the other end is talker since they would be doing most of the talking. I met my last bf when I was about to give up on men completely. I wouldn't go on a dating site either... And I come to this site for the great info resource. I'm still trying to figure out where I'm going from there.

Originally Posted by bravo1983

My first date was at the ER, Second laundry mat, Third, the park. Yeah just call me Romeo

LOL The ER? That sounds like a bad start. Were either of you hurt?

[bravo1983]

My future step son was sick and my she had to go to the ER with a sick kid all by herself so I offered to come along.

[kevo]

Like Sage0925 said, some guys are just tired of rejection by women. I was very close to marriage about 10 years ago and then bam... she left with no word of why. That took a while to get over. And of course more rejection over the years didn't help the situation either.

I'm generally a happy guy so i don't mean to be negative here but dating sucks. Sometimes I wish I could just fast forward to the marriage part.