For private messages chose 'post a private message' instead of 'post a visitor message'. That way you can vent and only you and the 1 or 2 folks you pm (private message) know about it.
And don't worry about the post, hard feelings. I know I push the edge with some of the folks here but I just can't see the difference between people bitching about how the powers that be shouldn't be allowed to spread misinformation and us spreading it ourselves. Maybe it is the teacher in me (I know, I know already been told by my ex 'those poor kids') but if I see misinformation I point it out and boy howdy there are folks who don't want that. . . .
Anyway hope you have cat issues taken care of. If you want to run her status by me you can pm me - I've raised/nursed/dr a bunch over my years.
Blessings.